This post is about coolness. If you got it. Why you want it. And cats.
It was Tuesday morning. I had packed up my things for a very needed work/life balance activity known as vacation. At the last second, I headed back up to my office and dug out my printed copy of Danielle LaPorte’s The Spark Kit (formerly The Fire Starter Sessions).
My hunch was that for some of the 12 hours (one-way) of commuting California’s I-5, I’d have some time to read. To finish it. Since I never had. Even though the portion I had read thoroughly rocked the me that’s learning to love and adore her self more, everyday.
I was talking with a client yesterday. She was freaking out. Which happens during the webification process. Six Ways To Staying Optimystical…” was born in a client freak out moment. Danielle LaPorte may have mid-wived it, but the essence of it was drawn from past experience and many moments of messiness.
During moments like the one my client was having and really throughout the entire webification process, I find myself referring all of us back for a review often. The rules for optimystical web presencing can be applied generously throughout your webification adventure and really to everything else in your life and biz.
December 3, Moment
Moment. Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year. Describe it in vivid detail (texture, smells, voices, noises, colors). (Author: Ali Edwards)
The most interesting thought I contemplated on this day, was how I might embrace the moments of 2010 that were hard. Grief. Loss. Heartbreak. The ouches.
After scanning my year for some highlight-ey moments, not one of my memories said to me, “Me! Me! I’m the Moment!” So I decided to look at the hard. Because, I guess, I had a few of those this year. I know you did too.
I got some feedback from clients, when I shared out loud about the fear and anxiety I have around managing my business growth and expansion. Specifically, having more clients than I think I have the time and energy to support.
Being too full or too busy to serve each of you well. Being concerned for my own well being. Wanting to get clear on what makes me really happy with what I’m doing, so I can focus on doing more of that. And asking for/getting support with the other pieces.
I said my fear and then a few of you said your own.
I think it’s easy to get lost in planning. In processes. In setting future-oriented goals to move toward.
It’s all good.
In a lot of ways, our structure gives us freedom. To flow with our creativity. To be more intentional with it.
And then a bad day hits. Knocking our processes and plans for the future out of kilter.
And you wonder where all your tools and resources went for weathering this, another stormy season.
I would say if the fear Jedi had a daily practice, like Qi Gong or something, it would be the act of making it her intention to approve of herself, constantly. In a mantra-like way.
From Heartbreak To Joy, In One Easy Step
Just by thinking it?
According to the Law of Attraction. If you think it, you can have it (or essentially create it).
And if you look no further at it, the Law of Attraction falls short. And can be misinterpreted as another “quick fix”… right?
We experience the challenges of life and our overall agenda is “Get me outta here, my discomfort, my heartbreak, my lack of any kind” and we begin hunting furiously for the neon green EXIT sign. It’s almost automatic in some cases.
FEEL no matter how painful it is, for numbing is the opposite of living. v @gassho #Pamir
Earlier this week, I found myself in a 5-story window, ready to jump (it’s a metaphor, just so we’re clear here).
I had decided to write about that and pressed publish. Again.
Most of the time, I talk about the anxiety and fear that comes up when I do that. How my self-doubting voices surround me and try to coax me out of a perceived risk I’m considering. It’s always risky to share more of who I am, what is actually taking place in my life right now. It feels silly. Shallow. Too self-focused. Uninteresting.
A book review.
So I mentioned in my post-vacation post that I read two books. One was a Buddhist book, which was meaty and deep. I’m almost always reading the meaty stuff.
But for the vacation, I thought, “If I even get to these books, I want one to be a vacation, like my vacation.”
I went to the bookshelves in the garage and looked through to see what would pique out at me. And I grabbed a skinny little thing with a beautiful cover called Speak.
Yeah, just Speak. So profound. How could I not take it with me and read it? Especially with all this creative doubt I’m constantly processing and sometimes blogging about and yet still manage to keep pushing the publish button.
Dear Self: Would it be OK if I choose the easy way this year?
Lately, in the Twittersphere, there’s been lots of talk about goal setting. And yearly reviews. And 2010 objectives. And every time I read one, I mentally say “Ugh!”
That familiar feeling of discomfort. Measuring sticks and progress reports.
I remember getting ranked a number when I was in corporate. On a scale of 1-5, 3 was performing to normal or required expectations. A 4 was above expectations. And 5, exceptional (like it doesn’t and can’t happen every year).
If your friend/relationship doesn’t allow for exploration of difficulties and is so fragile you don’t dare approach conflict, then whether it is a loving friendship must be questioned. ~Brenda Davies
Today’s Daily Inspiration hits home. Many points highlight shifts in several of my relationships this past year.
Like making the decision not to collude (turning a blind eye when you see another self-destructing) at the cost of the people involved or the relationship itself. BIG!
This year, I’ve had the opportunity to ask myself over and over, “Where am I colluding? And with whom?” And then weigh in on the costs and benefits of this behavior.
