Or How To Scare Yourself Write to The Edge

I’ve noticed this thing, it’s in me and a lot of the wonderfully creative ambitious women I talk to everyday, this idea that we need permission.

Permission to be ourselves. Permission to follow our hearts & dreams. Permission to receive and allow in the giving from others. And when it comes to your technology and getting your blog on, spattering your web pages with words, with the juice of your heart and giving yourself permission to write. Permission to call yourself a writer.

Mark Silver from HeartofBusiness.com is pretty much rockin’ my world these days because I’m participating in his Business Momentum class. One of the things I love about Mark is how tender he can be at giving instruction about how to do things better, especially when it comes to writing.

Writing is soooo personal. I think this is why it’s also so scary. But at the same time writing can be so liberating, but it’s a freedom you cannot discover until you push through the insanity of needing permission from yourself first to do it.

In this week’s class with Mark, he was layering on the tenderness, giving us feedback on one of the most important aspects (for me) of writing which is using your words to reach your customers. Layer upon layer, reminding us never to stop… keep reviewing this process he shares in the class, keep circling back and answering more of the questions he asks. Don’t give up… keep writing.

And it just struck me so clearly… that this process is about the activity of writing, not the outcome of it. The more you write, the better it gets and if you have your vision focused on “being done or complete” with the writing, well those are directions to insanity.

I’ve learned a lot in the last three years about writing. More so in the last year, when I’ve had the opportunity to meet amazing people who have supported my writing growth, sometimes intentionally, but not always.

Havi Brooks from FluentSelf.com helped me give myself more permission to be more me and allow that through in my writing. After 20 years of corporate service, my writing was primed for stale and emotionless marketing messages. What I saw (and felt) after reading a post from Havi was the freedom of self-acceptance in all her writing. She gave herself permission to insert silly quirks and special Havi-isms into her posts and her personality shines brightly. I thought, “I want to do that!” and so promptly opened up a Word doc and began typing.

Charlie Gilkey over at ProductiveFlourishing.com, well I just can’t shut up about this guy. He’s an awesome coach and now dear friend whose wisdom I absolutely cherish (even for his ripe old age of 29, or is it 30 now… can’t remember only that he’s having his Saturn Return which I like to scare him with). Charlie has seriously been my #1 fan this year. Helping me look at writing for my blog in ways that really help me throw my sails up.

Here’s one of the juicy ones from the awesome sauce that really helps me step up to the edge and take the scary right out of writing. He says, In the beginning, your blog is your primary product. It’s ok to just focus on that… making your blog a product. And, every single time you sit down to write, it’s an investment worth at a minimum, what you charge a client for time with you during a session. It has the same exact value!”

So consider what you charge for a moment, especially if you’re a coach like I am, and now imagine every time you press publish, you’ve just earned your hourly coaching rate! Magic, isn’t it?

Naomi Dunford is a Marketing Genius with a potty mouth. Gotta love it. Naomi tells it exactly like it is. And she’ll tell you in a way that absolutely splits your sides with laughter… and sometimes even your heart open to her real genuine humanity. Yes underneath all that Sailor Genius is a very big generous heart and it shows up in her writing all the time. Reading a Naomi post is another way I put some gas in my car and race up the publish button in WordPress.

If you are new to the blogging world, just beginning to figure it out or actually considering what it would be like to “get in” and start doing stuff with it, don’t miss Charlie Gilkey’s latest posty gem called Becoming Yourself and Growing Your Blog. You’ll see that I riffed off of him, sorta got psychically imprinted with the style of his post, of which he stars along side of other starry persons I’ve already mentioned here (paragraphs just preceding). The real moral of his blog post is right in the title, but I still insist you head on over and read it immediately.

But before you go…

I’d love for you to consider what habits you have that end up scaring you away from writing. Is it something you think about yourself, your ability? And have you ever wondered how to make it fun instead?

  • How do you scare yourself away from writing?
  • If you had permission amnesia, what would be different for you about your writing habits?
  • Can I nurture my writing by introducing more fun and therefore more posts?

To be on the web for your business and do that thing you do, you must be committed to writing. So here is to playing more. To loving more. And to writing more!!!

I was inspired to write this post by the fourth principle of fun in @BoxofCrayons‘s short video below.